We use words every day. Most times we get so lazy that whatever comes to our head, we blurt it out.
I have had countless instances where I said things I wasn’t suppose to say. Sometimes, I negotiate with God inside me when I am having a discussion and I have that impression inside not to say more or to not even start the conversation in the first place: I will say, “God let me just say this one, only this and I will keep quiet or other times I quickly rush to say it before I feel the nudge to keep quiet.
Have you ever taken the time to listen to yourself? I did and I didn’t like what I was hearing. I also discovered when I am around certain people, to enable me flow with the line of conversation, I say and agree with things I don’t even believe or agree with, in other not to be the odd one.
This spills over into words we say over our children, others children, spouses, relatives, neighbors e.t.c. I am learning how to watch the words I speak, in the heat of conversations, when tired or stressed. It takes conscious effort and I am glad I am more careful with my words now and getting better.
The bible that said “let the words of your mouth be acceptable in God’s sight knew what it was talking about. I heard someone introducing her child (two years old) as: “this is…my trouble. Ha! Your trouble? Another person while trying to chastise her child said “you don’t think you just behave like a fool. You are stubborn. You are thief (the intention was to describe the child’s smartness). I will kill you before you kill me. Mumu, you don’t know anything, and a host of WORDS carelessly thrown about.
People get angry sometimes when I tell them not to use negative words on my children. I hear things like: “you know what I mean or you spiritualize everything. Others will give me the eye roll; sorry o
The mouth used in calling someone ‘stubborn’ can twist itself to say ‘active’. The same lips can be twisted to say ‘inquisitive’ rather than ‘destroyer’, ‘area scatter’. It doesn’t take anything off me to think of what I am saying to others and even myself. It’s not a joke neither is it cute or funny, it’s just wrong.
I have realized things I say, form my thoughts and this form me likewise my children and my husband. We say hundreds if not thousands of words everyday, which doesn’t give me the luxury of spouting off everything that comes to my head.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” Ephesians 4:29
What am I saying…to my husband, children, housemaids, staff, parents, friends, neighbours, e.t.c?
God spoke the world, you and I to being through words…what does my words do?
“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” Proverbs 18:21
What fruit am I harvesting?