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My Dreams and God’s will

When I met my husband, he was the opposite of all I dreamed of in a man: the only thing he had going for him then was that he is tall. I dreamed of big and brawny but he was slim and lanky, I always wanted a language different from mine, so my children will be polyglot but he came not only from my state but my hometown, I wanted a different church but he attended my family church e.t.c. All these as far as I was concerned disqualified him. But before I totally disqualified him, I went to ask […]

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Bullying

While in school I was bullied, it was hard and bad. I suffered physically and mentally. I was angry at myself for taking it because some of my mates resisted being bullied but I stayed,soaking it all up like a sponge and I hated my bully, she made sure she extinguished every form of self-esteem I had and any optimistic bone in my body. I didn’t even know how much I was affected until I woke up crying from the same consistent dream ten years later. I prayed and did everything I knew to do but the dream persisted till […]

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Absence and Couples

Due to better job opportunities, further education for better prospect and different legit reason or the other, couples are now living apart. There is weekend, monthly, in-between, yearly (different category) husbands. I don’t like it a bit, but what can I do-sacrifice today for a better tomorrow. When ever my husband lives, it seems the light has been switched off in my home, the children will mope around for the first two days(I mope too but it’s the children we are talking about), they keep asking: “Is daddy on his way? Why did he go? When is he coming? I keep […]

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Suddy Move

I was giving Tori and Nugie a bath; I told Tori to close her eyes while I washed her face, her sister was also given the same instruction. Usually, when I tell them to shut their eyes, they always ask if it was okay to open their eyes. After using the washcloth on Nugie’s face, I told her to open her eyes and she did but Tori assumed since I told her sister to open her eyes, then it was okay to open hers as well. Wrong move! what she didn’t realize was, there was soapsuds close to her eyes […]

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Oranges and Guavas

My mother is a very outspoken and industrious woman, she can market anything and sell it too. Little wonder she wants her children to be the same. Being the first, I derailed that dream. I preferred staying indoors,reading my novels to making friends, except you are family or close friends I hardly know what to say to you and she could not understand why. When my sister came, she mended my mother’s broken heart (LOL), she was everything and more; in fact, give her your waste to trash and she will sell it back to you at a very good price! […]

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Night Feeding

I envy those whose children sleep through the night… Oh! What a luxury. Though am grateful my children do not cry at night, they wake up, feed and go back to sleep. For my first child, as per JJC, i was advised to give her beverages or porridge whenever she woke, since I was stopping night breastfeeding. I kept all the ‘equipment’ beside the bed alongside feeding bottle, so I just wake up and mix(this could happen like three times before morning). It was another war, stopping this because she got use to it, also I couldn’t stop diaper since she […]

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Mothers Bullying Mothers

I have three children under the age of four and most times it’s overwhelming, especially as a young couple trying to find their feet with children up to their usual shenanigans; tagging along wherever you go, holding onto you, preferring to be on the particular chair where you are sitting. Whew! It’s a whole lot to take in and handle without help and believe me when I tell you I don’t get it right most times. Which takes me to the reason for this piece; some mothers got no chill, like seriously? Motherhood is not a competition; also children are […]

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Checks, Right and Wrong

My colleague told me a story that made me sit and rethink my laziness towards obeying the Holy Spirit through the inner check in my spirit. According to him a couple in his hometown on way to the market with their toddlers (twins, boy and girl) had an accident in the middle of the river and their boat capsized. The man and his wife were seasoned swimmers; each took a child and tried swimming the long distance to shore with one hand (the children being toddlers could not hold on to their parents, hence swimming with one hand). The man […]

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Mine…or not?

I wanted going to the office briefly, but didn’t want the hassle of driving, so decided to board a tricycle instead. I knew how much it costs to take a tricycle from the house to my destination, so I knew what I was waiting for. Within two to three minutes of standing there, about six to seven tricycles passed, some were full, those that were not full I flagged down and told them my destination with how much I was willing to pay to make sure we were on the same page. They were calling a price above the appropriate […]

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Good Job

Having little beings (children) to take care of and who look up to me ain’t easy because I don’t have all the answers, what I fail? What if I am too hard on them? What if…? What if…? These thoughts buzz through my head most times but I do not have the time to sit and let them weigh me down. I learnt early enough from books and speakers that criticism and negativity only fosters low self-esteem, so I try to encourage my children as much as I can, even when I am busy or tired and they are like: […]

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